Where’s All The Reference Material For Daily Life?

It’s surprising, isn’t it? There are truckloads of books, TV shows, websites, et cetera, et cetera about finding love, having great sex, then how to have affairs and end your relationship (how to split your possessions, blah blah). This Sunday’s Observer Magazine had a nauseating article about the trials and tribulations of single life - ‘what if I never settle down?’

Then why, why is there no definitive reference for how to maintain a long-term relationship? Really. I’m not suggesting conspiracy here, but don’t the powers that be want us to have happy settled lifestyles? Is marriage (or even long-term co-habitation) the end of life? Do you know, since we had our first child in 2001, my mother has stopped asking me how I am on the phone?

Of course, there’s a reason for this line of questioning. I’ve just started reading a book by Stephen Covey called “The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Families“, I think, with the intention of creating a better family life for us. As the kids grow, we need to find some way to evolve together - as a group - through the years. I’d hate to become detatched from my kids when they hit their teens because we don’t understand each other anymore. That, I think, is my main reason.

Anyway, in the beginning of the book, Covey quite rightly points out that in society, the family faces more challenges today than ever. I agree - especially as the family is seen as a burden by most people. Hopefully the book lives up to expectations….I’ll keep you posted.