Bringing me down!

What on earth possses people to be so openly negative? I was at my daughters nursery open day yesterday when I got talking to a woman who I have met before a handful of times at most. She obviously noticed I was pregnant and began offer me her sympathies as according to her the third child is the worst. She herself has 4 but says she almost had a nervous breakdown after her third because of all the upheaval it caused in the household. She assures me that this is the case for everyone, and went on to cite many of her friends experiences.

I am under no illusions, obviously another child will bring more work, and things will be a little more hectic (if thats possible!) but I have been trying to stay positive throughout the pregnancy as I really don’t believe in worrying or obsessing about things that you cannot change. I am also hoping that 3 children will = 3 times more love and happiness in the house. Children aren’t just there to be fed, dressed, washed and brought to school, its not just a chore to me, I get immense pleasure from spending time with and watching over my brood and I am hoping that along with the extra tasks a new baby will bring, this pleasure will increase accordingly.

But its hard to stay positive if all you are hearing is horror stories, people are so quick to tell me that I will have my hands full, and how hard things will be for me. Yet for all these sympathisers very few will ever offer a helping hand. I was extremely tired yesterday and not on top form, to hear from yet another mum how hard things are going to be really brought me down. Why do people need to do that? I would never do that to another person, especially one I didn’t know very well.

The whole scenario reminds me of the months leading up to my wedding. While we were planning the wedding people often congratulated us and gushed about the arrangements and our future ahead. But that all changed as soon as the rings were on the fingers! After that all we got were commiserations, Mr Levee was bombarded with comments about the ball and chain and women felt compelled to tell me of their experiences of marriage, very few of them were positive.

I know this has turned into a bit of a ramble, maybe it won’t even make sense to anyone else, but I have just been so frustrated by people always looking for the clouds rather than the silver lining. If people are truly that negative they need to keep it to themselves, I don’t want them to bring me down with them!