Weddings
Well after about 7 years together my partner and I have decided to get married. This decision was accompanied by a sigh of releif by my mother who never got used to us “living in sin”. This relief quickly disappeared once I told her that she wasn’t invited!!
We have decided to avoid all the politics and get married in Italy. My partner is a very quiet soul (but lovely all the same) I am not quiet but definately odd and hate making small talk, particularly with people I don’t see from one year to the next. That old question “so what are you doing with yourself now?” drives me mad.
Also with weddings you always offend someone, a daughter not being flowergirl, an aunt not invited, so we decided to offend everyone and go away by ourselves to avoid the politics. Oh how naive were we. My mother laid on the guilt trip, one of my sisters, who I rarely see or hear from, cried because wouldn’t see her sister married, more like because she wouldn’t get to buy a new dress and talk loudly to a whole room of people thereby embarassing the rest of her family.
Ah well, it had to be done sometime! Wish we hadn’t told anyone though. Anyone else have wedding stories or advice on how to avoid the politics?
I think you know the Levee wedding story off by heart by now! Getting out of the country and sharing the moment of your wedding alone is by far the most sensible thing you could have done!
When the family get their claws into the proceedings, you can very quickly forget why you wanted to get married in the first place!
I’ll never forget the night in Ballycastle - just a week or two before the wedding - completely freaking out because of all the ‘help’ we were receiving. And for help you can read mind-bending stress and general craziness! Driven mad by wedding insanity, Mrs Levee and I stormed up the main street in Ballycastle screaming at each other across the road and throwing chips.
Not our finest hour, but believe me, I can see your reasons for wanting to go it alone! Good luck with the plans!
By all means leave the country and enjoy your day, but why not have a wedding party when you get back - avoid some of the stress, but give an opportunity to accept everyone’s well wishes graciously. Plus, you’re more likely to get presents if you have some sort of reception
It will give people who wish to see a ceremony a little something to be a part of without the all out hassle of a wedding.
Thats exactly what we are planning, something relaxed and fun after we return as Mr and Mrs! (and of course presents are a factor too!!)
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